Another new topic! already? Here we go

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Oldtimer,
thanks for dropping by. I frequently read what you post to others and have learned from you. thanks. This has been a weekend of lots of talking between my W and me, which I guess is good. She says she wants to make us work, she wants us to be together, and she is looking for a job back in Denver. Chances are very slim though, and I'd hate her to give up a job she loves and then resent me over the years.

I think we could have a good marraige and live in different states. I think it is possible. And, I'd been willing to find a life for me in Arkansas. Just over time, without seeing what I wanted and not wanting to go back to the same M I had before the bomb, I'd started leaning heavily toward staying here.

We'll see where it goes. More in my response to Aud....

Aud, I'm glad your sitch is still rolling along, no terrible bumps or problems. That's good news (if I interpreted your post right). I really think it is possible to find our way to a good M/R, but it probably never gets easy. Maybe it can get easy for a few years, then hard work again. And, the more we learn and grow, the shorter and easier the hard times are.

Time for me to vent some more. :-)
So... My W has been turning on the love, and been convincing me, and I'd started to feel more optimistic. I bring up an issue about cell phones, why she doesn't want me on her plan even if it would save us money. I said I just wanted an answer, even if the answer is "none of your business". So, she gave me an answer. She still phones the OM on a regular basis.

Well, at least she told me. We've talked a lot today, by phone. I'm still optimistic overall. She called as I was writing that last paragraph. Now I'm exhausted. But, she wants me, she wants to make it work, she agrees we need passion and affection, she's looking for a job in Denver...

so tired. :-P It'll work out, I believe, it's just hard. And it should be. Something real and valuable takes effort. The easy solution wouldn't last.

I wanted to write more, explain my feelings, and my analysis of all this, but I'm too tired. But thanks guys. !!!!!