Hey BBJ ...my h did basically this but did a whole lot of crappy things before he came to the realisation that he 'didn't know what he wanted'.
Does he read books? What about the book. Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay. Maybe just maybe if he follows that book it will help him to be clearer about what he wants. Frankly, a marriage will be hard work a lot of the time. The fairy tale stuff does not exist in real life. Good communication and honest self knowledge and expression whilst being considerate of the other person will go a long way to getting towards that fairy tale feeling but you can't get it all the time unless you pretend you are newly weds and everything is exciting. Throw kids, life, full time work into the mix and it becomes a massive juggling act - one that you have thrown yourself into full on and Dan is just bobbing along hoping it will hit him in the face and that he doesn't have to make any effort. *slap Dan*. Nothing good comes from laziness.
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
