I think you might so great with Plan A..... not for everyone b/c it is cake eating.. which my H is doing some too... but you've been apart enough with minimal contact or R, OW talks ... I'm 2.5 months since bomb so I'm way too emotional, highs and lows, to do a true Plan A although like this weekend for me I try to be cheerful when around H....
You and T2L timing is almost exactly same... her H moved out around April or May and in with OW in August... she had min. to no contact with him for 5 months.... now doing Plan A which is making sure you fill his top 5 emotional needs, invite him to places, always cheerful etc... get the book and read...
No D talk is a good sign too... unlike my H has brought it up but usually when I have R talks ... so if I don't have them he doesn't either...
Tennis good thing.. we have something in common ... to bad tennis season is over until Feb....
I'm going to update my thread later tonight too... I feel I need advice as well and feeling much like you... one day I'm so hurt and can't imagine ever forgiving and the next day I feel inspired to work on this M and me and hope and pray H comes home.. only if God is prepared for him to be a better man and do the work necessary to affair proof our marriage and love deeply again...
I think a year is a good timeframe... but it is an individual decision. As long as no one remarries then there is always the chance... right??
hang in there...
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
