I believe you're looking for melatonin. I have recommended it to several people and it has really worked for them too. (I'm starting to sound like a a salesman.)
Hey Tal, sorry to see things are stressful for you right now. Sounds like you need a break and some TLC. Any chance that you could get away for a little "me" time?
Just wanted to stop by and give you a hug ((((HUGS))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Get this ... I said this to H last night. Well that commerical for E harmony came on.. and he jokingly says, would we match up. I said no, we don't have anything in common anymore, just the kids and we talk business that's it. He says I was being ridiculous... I guess he really doesn't have a clue.
Yesterday was high emotion for me...I really needed the friend in my H but he wasn't around. I don't know guys, Im dissapointed, worried, and scared. Im dissapointed in him for not realizing what is going with us, worried that things aren't going to change, and scared that one day I will be really alone with no "partner".. maybe Im sounding selfish, but Its partly my fault. Ive totally engrossed myself in my children and working for the business and trying to make H happy, there's nothing left for me. I chose that route, and I know I will pay for it. I know im sounding like Im feeling sorry for myself (which H always seems to mention to me when I try and explain how I feel)...
Blah... ok all that was just a big blob of info..
sorry for the retarded rant.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Get this ... I said this to H last night. Well that commerical for E harmony came on.. and he jokingly says, would we match up. I said no, we don't have anything in common anymore, just the kids and we talk business that's it.
Boy tal,
You don't know how may times I have seen that com. and just for the heck of it wanted to submit my name (just to see what happened... NOT that I would follow up on anything)
Originally Posted By: tiredandlost
He says I was being ridiculous... I guess he really doesn't have a clue.
This is a tuff one hey Tal... Ya know they say to move on, they say to let the past go... and sometimes it seems our spouses have. But they have done so without giving US closure. I can let the past go... And I know my wife is not going to come begging for me to stay and break down and cry saying she was sorry. I know that will not happen. BUT what I do need in more that just talk that the past is past. I will need prof that I mean more to her than the OM does now. Funny she did not want me to do anything to hurt him but it was ok for him to hurt me... ya know what I mean?
Originally Posted By: tiredandlost
Yesterday was high emotion for me...I really needed the friend in my H but he wasn't around. I don't know guys, Im dissapointed, worried, and scared. Im dissapointed in him for not realizing what is going with us, worried that things aren't going to change, and scared that one day I will be really alone with no "partner".. maybe Im sounding selfish,
NO No NO..
You are not being "selfish". Everyone deserves to be happy. I know what you mean about burying yourself in work, kids and the. I am not one to talk when it comes to thinking about me. But that is changing. Slowly but it is. As for being alone?? THAT is your choice.. With or without your husband it's your choice. I know I for one need someone to take care of. I need someone to show me they care. If things don't work out with W and me... I know I will not be alone... I will be on an adventure finding someone new.........
Heck I may take a trip to Arkansas, Or Florida, or Minnesota I have found out through this site that there are real women out there.
Now don't get me wrong I am not throwing in the towel yet but I am to the point that if I do need to and want to I can. Heck there are more "towels" on the rack..
Take Care of yourself, Didn't you just get a new car?? Go for a ride and think if me here in sunny california.. It was 88 yesterday.. IN NOVEMBER..
Later Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Im dissapointed in him for not realizing what is going with us, worried that things aren't going to change, and scared that one day I will be really alone with no "partner"
(((Tal)))
I so understand where you're coming from, Tal. But I am sad to say that it is all too common with we males of the species -- we're often woefully behind in recognizing the situation of our relationship with a woman. Usually dangerously so. And while I wonder why you ladies seem reluctant to cut the clueless some slack, I also wonder if even half of us deserve some slack.
So while I am acutely feeling your pain in how stupid your H seems to be, I am also feeing a bit of compassion for his ignorance. I wish, for both your sakes, he would wake up and smell the coffee.
Originally Posted By: Dr LOve
You are not being "selfish". Everyone deserves to be happy
I agree with the former, Doc. But I take issue with the latter. Everyone deserves to pursue happiness, not necessarily catch it. And certainly not at the expense of anyone else.
I'm so sorry that things continue to be yucky, and with the added stress of your schedule being so full, well, it just doesn't help, does it? (((((Hugs for you, hon)))))
So, as Sugar asked, what's up with some "me-time"? Can you swing it somehow? And fairly soon? It really would be great for you.
(((((Tal)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
You are not being "selfish". Everyone deserves to be happy
I agree with the former, Doc. But I take issue with the latter. Everyone deserves to pursue happiness, not necessarily catch it. And certainly not at the expense of anyone else.
Nocode,
Agreed, But we need to be careful with "the expense of others" part. If my Wife would be happy with us living as "roommates". And I am not. Then even though she will be "unhappy" (her expense). I need to cut lose to be able to pursue my happiness.. But I know this is the exceptions to the rule. I am NOT saying to have an affair to be happy at the expense of your marriage..
Later Me
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
