Just a thought, and I know others might disagree, but I thought it could be worth considering anyway.
I remember reading on someone else's thread that a man may not consider an EA inappropriate at all, but rather just making a close friend, even though of course for us it's crossing a line because if WE were to have an EA with a man it would likely mean more than physical intimacy... I've heard that for many men it's not until physical intimacy is involved that the feelings run really deep. I know that's just speculation, but is your H the kind of guy who always has more female friends than male friends? That's how my H was when we lived in the US and it used to drive me crazy, but I always had many male friends, so realized I was being hypocritical.
In any case, whatever is going on, it sounds like you are dealing with it in a very good way. Also, you are still spending a lot of time together. Do the 2 of you have any serious R-related talks at all?
I saw your post on Sep's thread, wondering what stage you were at. Maybe you can join me in stage 2.25?:) Clearly you're not just friends as ML happens from time to time and you stay the night at each other's place sometimes. I also like the fact that he invited you to spend Thanksgiving with him.
Anyway hang in there. Pisces said that once they were in stage 2, things moved really quickly. Stage 1 is the killer, and most non-DB couples on th e brink of D probably never make it past that...
Hope you're having a good Sunday!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
