After a slow week in my sitch; I guess that's good, I went to SIL house for our nephew's 1st BD party. Only attendees were me and the kids; W's father and step-mother; BIL's father; and BIL's cousin. W and her mother couldn't make it. Party was fine. My D loves her little nephew; though my D was a little sickly, in and out of fever on Sat. Our nephew loves following my S around and playing with my S's toys. As my FIL and his W left; they gave me the usual SIL hugs and let me know that I could call them anytime if I needed anything. It's nice to know that they know what I'm dealing with.
Talking with my W's sis; she was telling me that the W has no guilty conscience; that the W is doing (in the W's words) taking a risk. That we are technically divorced; and the only reason why we aren't legally divorced is that we can't afford it right now.
Going back to the W's visit with her G.father last week; I would have to assume that she was looking for money to file for D. I say this because her G.father told my SIL that W had told him that I already had a GF and she put a name out there to him. His response was "So!" So looks like she was trying to make me out to be the bad one here; just like the script. BTW, I do not have a GF; and the name; while she is a friend, she's definitely no GF.
SIL asked me how long I was willing to wait for the W. I told her that right now it's a matter of getting things ready. That I'm tired of waiting for the W. She said Good, that I really needed to recover and get someone in my life who could love me back the way I would love them. She's a wonderful person and loving Christian woman.
SIL also told me that she talked with the W last week, briefly about the sitch and concerning her behavior with the kids. The W ended the conversation shortly after her sis started in on how she's treating the kids. SIL told her that she wasn't concerned about our M problems; but how she was going about leaving was distressing on the kids. SIL told the W that she was going to regret this one day; and the she needed to be spending quality time with the kids. W replied that she's spending as much time with them now as she always has. (very little...so that's not a lie)
SIL asked me how much time the W has spent with them this week. I told her about 1 hour on Sunday. A hour or two on Thur. and Fri. as she took D to daycare. I also told her that she never calls to see how they are nor does she call to even talk to them.
So I'm still pressing forward with the things that I have to do and that looks like an eventual D filing.
