Maybe I should be in piecing part 2?

[Hope4us]

Ok Flynn, First, I'll let you know when we get the new bed set up and if she moves back in. You seem more obsessed than I am about it, LOL.

I did bring it up to her. Not in an angry way at all. I went up to the bedroom after she got up and said to her that I wanted to apologize for being down last night, but when she jerked her hand away when I touched it that it really hit me hard. She said she didn't even realize she'd done it. Which if you read Breakaway's thread on Newcomers could be entirely true. It could also be that she did recognize she did it and wanted to minimize the affect. But she gave me a couple of very warm hugs and has been very engaging this morning.

I've thought a lot about what Break wrote and I'll share something I've never shared with ANYONE before.

When W was in college...uh...lets just say that the guy she was dating at the time and a number of his frat buddies kind of forced W to do somethings that she didn't want to do. You could call it rape with multiple guys involved. When we first got together we talked about it and the way I handled it with her was one of the things that she said made her fall in love with me. Previous guys she'd dated, when she told them what happened, would always blame her for it happening. I was the first that told her it wasn't her fault and it changed nothing in how I felt for her.

So now, reading Break's post, I have a new sympathy for how in this stressful time, that some things may be taking her back to that bad place and I just need to let her work through this stuff and be there WHEN she's ready to talk.

Ok, everyone tell me just how much harder this is going to be for me given what I have finally told what had gone on in W's life before we met.