Land of confusion

[redhottie]

Hey Liz,
I am glad you showed up. How is life in general? How are your Ds? Are you doing Ok?
I dont know what to say about your H. How long has it been now? I dont see how anything can change by January unless you have something to do with it. It seems he is happy with the arrangements. Did he get a house?
Love
K

Hi K! I miss you so much and think of you often. Life in general has been very busy. We had a competition at out rink last weekend so I was very busy with that. It was also D11's birthday. I had a sleepover for her lastnight.

Work is pretty good. I was really enjoying it but I got a student with some problems that messed up the mix. I'm working on getting that back on track. The good news is that my first graders adore me (they are so easy) so at least I get a lift there.

H is still in our old house. The suburb that it is in is one of the hardest hit in the poor housing market. It needs work before he could think of selling. He won't be doing that anytime soon as he doesn't even keep it clean. It reminds me of Robin Williams apartment in Mrs. Doubtfire before he gets his act together.

We now have seperate bank accounts that our paychecks go into. (We still have a joint savings account.) We are each paying our own bills although I am paying most of the bills involving the Ds. (skating, drama, anything school related) What I need to do is sit down with H and draw up some sort of seperation agreement. I know it won't be a problem getting him to pay up.

You are right...H seems happy with the arrangements. Life is too easy for him. He is starting to stress a little over paying bills. It is the first he has done that in 20 years. H called me yesterday to find out how to look at his accounts online. He couldn't remember if he had paid a large bill or how much was in his account. It is ironic that he comes to me for help in such matters...he accused me of being controlling in the past. I would think he would want to do things on his own.

I think of you and when you were at the point where you didn't think you would give your H another chance if he wanted one. I guess I'm at that point now. I think it is time for me to completely drop the rope and throw it over the fence. You are right, nothing will change before January.