Oh my gosh NLT that must have been tough looking at those photos. It does sound like ow is calling all the shots. Purple tie. I highly doubt that was totally your h's idea.
Just keep praying for him.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
n, The description of our h in the photos says it all. The "fake" look about him, the smile, etc., tells the true story of what is going on w/him. Did you check out the eyes? They should have a very spaced out look about them as well. Your xh is definitely in the throes of euphoria and trying to recapture his youth. Mlc really has got a hold on him right now. In time, he'll work through his issues and that purple tie will be tossed in the trash and he'll begin to ask himself "what was I thinking?".
Now that the CMA is over, I hope that you are getting some much needed rest and the stressors have settled down for you. Try to enjoy your weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yes, it was pretty hard at first looking at those pictures, but after seeing her & I'm not saying that I'm pretty or anything but I do look better than she does. She really looks old, totally not his type at all!!! Every thing about her looks fake! I did look at his eyes, in some of the pictures he did have a glazed look. He had his hair really weird, it was shaved real close on the sides, not as much on the top but he had something in his hair, he hates putting stuff in his hair!!!!
I hope that time will come sooner than later that he will realize how she brainwashed him.
I'm still pretty tired after the CMA's, it was pretty stressful this year for me. Things were done a little different than they have been in the past & it put a lot more on me. But, I did it! They normally put my name in the credits but this year the show was running long so they didn't have time.
I haven't been doing too much this weekend, Thurs. the day after the show I did absolutely nothing!!! I fed my dogs & that was about it, I even ordered pizza for me, didn't feel like cooking or warming up anything. I did a little house cleaning yesterday & today, things I've let get behind. It's been rather depressing, it's rainy, gloomy & turning cold. I think it's supposed to get down to freezing tonight. Sure would be nice if my ex was here to cuddle up with like we used to on nights like this.
But, I'm getting ready to go watch the Alabama football game & cross stitch.
Glam you are right, we have to keep praying for him!!!
It is true that these men affair down. See, I told you they did.
The healing process takes lots of time. Put your faith and trust in God and He will guide you the rest of the way.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Same here, NLT. It is hard to believe that this is our lives. It is hard not to think about all the negatives.
One day at a time helps me make it through. I know that God will take care of us and help us through it. I just get so inpatient.
Seeing photos of OW are hard.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
What a week it has been! I haven't put on shoes since Wed. night until today when I went to church & I'm still tired! Plus, I didn't sleep well last night, just everything was going thru my head.
Trusting, I'm like you, I just get so impatient & it is so hard not to think about all the negatives. I do try to keep praying but sometimes I don't know what to pray for anymore.
TR, my friend is still just so upset & in disbelief of what my H has done, she knew him pretty well & can't believe it! Anyway, she just typed in their last names on the computer & found where they registered, a 50 year old woman & 48 year old man registered???? When she was trying to find it again to tell me what site it was on she found the wedding pictures. We were talking when she found them so while she was on the phone I looked them up. I'm glad I was talking with her when I saw them but in some ways it made me feel some better b/c he did affair down. I've sent the pictures to MWG & she saw them also. This OW looks so much older, not his type at all.
I'm still just trying to pray. I have no ideal why he is in China, if or when he is coming back. I'm not that trusting of my H's SIL even tho I've talked with her before. She told me that her H was the best man at the wedding, well looking at those pictures he wasn't. So, if she calls me fine I'll talk to her but if she doesn't I think it would be best for me not to call her even tho I'm dying to find out what is going on.
Thank you all for being here for me. I really don't know what I would do without this site!
hang in there. i know you are getting stronger as each day goes by. i also know how difficult this is for you. keep praying and having faith.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I am getting stronger but it doesn't stop the hurting & longing for my H. I still have those days that I just can't stand it but then I just have to keep praying.
