Another wife hit by the bomb #3

[Sophie]

Hi Tawnya,

I had this on my thread...but, I wanted to come here to see you...in case you didn't get to back to me...so, this is what I was my reply to you on my thread...

Oh Geez...{{Tawnya}}


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I drove him...pretty relaxed and relieved that the encounter was OVER.



I meant to say I drove HOME...relaxed and feeling a little more secure in me...that I am the good person.

thanks for checking on me Tawnya...I've been reading your thread and your story is nearly the same as mine....I mean very, very much the same.

I just have a few years on you. So...I can say that the sooner the tug of war with words stops the better for you.

It's something you have to plan and psych yourself up for. After a while...maybe months, you just stop reacting more and more. Truly, it gets to a point that you recognize foolishness and don't buy into anything they say that's negative...because it's so....lame.

You plan some way to divert your reaction to negative things from you H, by planning an 'escape'...I used to just start thinking of how I wanted to rearrange the room, or how I was going to tell my friend about this crazy talk I was listening to. It's like when I was in a boring history class in high school...the negative '[censored] pit' our H's are in gets...BORING...

It's a project to train yourself in.

I probably should also post this on your thread...If I don't hear from you hear...I'll do that.

I'm not a beginner in this MLC/DB/detach/GAL/as if stuff....but, I am a beginner at posting and writing this.

I am a math teacher and not so much a writer of words.

I can work out any math problem for you though