Glad you day ended on such a sweet note with your son. As for H and his lawyer, divorce does not happen in a day. Actually in NC it takes one full year of separation before one can get a divorce, so you have lots and lots of time b/c your H has not even moved out yet, right?
As for support, I will tell you what the family law attorney I saw told me. In NC the court looks at the income of each spouse and whoever earns more is the "supporting" spouse and the one who earns less is the "dependent" spouse. Apparently, alimony is based on these figures and the cost of the lifestyle the coupke has been living. My attorney advised me NOT to spend any less during the year of separation so that when it comes time to determine how much my lifestyle costs compared to how much I earn vs. what H earns, H ends up having to pay more.
Also, attorney said the more H spends while living apart, the worse for me. If his cost of living is really high, I get less of his money. Also, alimony typically lasts for 1/2 the length of the marriage. My H and I have been married 10 years so I would get 5 years. Cannot help you w/ child support info as we have no kids, so the subject was not discussed.
Obviously, you should talk to an attorney yourself at some point but the one I saw has a very good reputation and I think his info is reliable.
As for the emotional part, I am sorry you are enduring this. I know how badly it hurts.
Your son sounds like a great kid. I am happy you have him.
Hang in there. And thankis for the kind words on my thread.
