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H just came to pick up the kids for their overnight tonight. Doesn't say hello to me or the kids when he comes, made several grumpy comments and then left. Looked gray again like he does lately. I felt not really anything, just thought to myself what a grumpy guy he is, not like I used to wondering if I had done something or whatever. I didn't let it bother me at all. Just maybe relief he's out of my life? Karen

Maybe its also that you can look at his actions from a more detached point of view and see the toll his choices/actions are taking on him. Hes not with you anymore and w/ OW which was supposed to make him happy and able to live the "fantasy" right? Well if thats true, why is he grumpy and gray? Because he is learning that the grass isn't greener and the consequences of his actions are more than he bargained for.

I'm glad that you no longer wonder what it is that you had/hadn't done and realized that his moods are his problem. Its kinda nice to get to that place. I did the same thing for a long time and now if H is mad/grumpy/whiny, etc...I know that it doesn't have ANYTHING to do with me and I have stopped trying to make it about me. Its pretty liberating for me.

You are an awesome mom and wonderful woman. Keep moving forward.