Yep, he is broken, confused, twisting in the wind, etc etc...
We went out and raked leaves together while the kids played outside, he was teasing me like the old days. I suck at raking and he said something like, "Nice job, rain man..." Lately if I was messing something up he would get all mad looking and say, "Just forget it, you aren't helping...." But today he was joky and sarcastic which is how we always flirted with each other...
However, I am still thinking he doesn't want to be with me. Last night was night #8 on the couch. Again this morning he said, I just fell asleep watching TV, it wasn't intentional....but come on, 8 days is no accident.......
I said something this morning, only half-seriously, about how we should go shopping for the kids tonight (Christmas) and send them to my mom's. Then when I was putting out steaks for supper I said, "I have been craving steak, so I am putting out steaks--or you could take me out for dinner!", again in a joking way.
But as H left to dump the leaves at MIL/FIL farm, he said, "I will be back in a bit, why don't you see if your parents want the kids tonight". So I called them, they are taking the kids, but I don't know specifically what we will be doing. How do you dress for an 'I want a divorce' evening? I already know the answer, look as hot as possible, why not?
I already know the answer, look as hot as possible, why not? 
