Thats great that yu are thinking about the closed book thing.Can you do any 180s to show your W that you are thiking abuot this and addressing it? Not in terms of yuo and her and your feelings, but what about something neutral, something about work, or the house, or your son? Can you open up to her in a way that you wouldnt necessarily before? It does seem to be an issue for her, from what she said to you.
Also, great that there are baby steps! Its prudent to not get excited, but yes, you cant ignore them as positives! I am pleased to hear it.
Shame about the LL's ! Its frustrating isnt it, but I guess your R wont stand a chance until she reaches a point where she can end it with OM. I always think its frustrating that none of these WAS seem to get left themselves by the OP. Why is that!? Perhaps because there seems to be a pattern of "affairing down", maybe they subconciously choose someone who they know wont leave them (like Dawn's H and OneDay and MichelleLTs..they all seem to go for people who werent there 'equal', in maturity or status).
I did that with bathroom tiles too! Do you do the matchstick thing?
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
