New Here-From Newcomers- hoping for more input...

[optimistwife]

Thank you FG...
I guess I needed those answers- and it is helpful to hear from someone- even if not him. Sometimes I just feel he is so oblivious to me and everything that is happening. But I know that isn't the truth. Thanks for a reminder.

I am trying to regroup my thoughts and actions today. I think I am slipping back into a mode that likely contributed to us being here in the first place (always wondering/caring what he is doing.) If he is going to be so fascinated with every girl/friend that comes along then there is nothing I can do about that... if he chooses that instead of our marriage.

I am trying to take accountability for why he feels that those relationships are more appealing than ours became...

What I think I need to do is to focus on myself again. NOT myself in association to him. I've been getting wrapped up with all the time we've been spending together- okay well increased time spent together, and started to glom onto him again.

Thank you for your insights. Focus on being ME.