7 Yrs Later Im Back

[BeingMe]

I see more of the story here, Francis.

I was shocked and hurt but felt that she didnt give me any hints that she was interested in working on our relationship

She tried for 8 months! How many more hints could you have gotten? You told her it was too late. On top of that, you wish she was someone else, you constantly complain about her actions in the M (of course, you are completely blameless), while you speak of your A's as if it's nothing. In fact, you want to hold onto both women until you make up your mind?! Do you feel just a teeny bit remorseful that you slept with another woman? This is why your W is leaving you, it seems.

I am quite flabbergasted! Still, awesome that you are honest in speaking about your A's. I think your IC is right and you should just let your W go. Be generous with her without her asking, and be her friend (as I said in your other thread), and maybe one day you will get her back, if you really want her (I have my doubts about this).

Again, sorry about being harsh --- and, I don't judge you in any way --- we all get through this life best we can, but you did ask for the advice, and there it is. Good luck!