Maybe I should be in piecing part 2?

[Hope4us]

Hope,

Checking in for a moment from vacation. Here's the problem I'm having with reading your obviously very heartfelt posts/thoughts:

1) You don't want to escalate anything, because you feel like it's going well, and it DOES seem to be going well, but for the painfully slow pace of it all;

2) You keep posting that you're NOT doing well with the pace.

So, which is it? I've said all along, and I think everyone agrees, that your way is fine, SO LONG AS YOU CAN HANDLE IT. And while most days you're handling it very well, I think -- long term -- you're not hanldling it at all, because you're incredibly frustrated, sad, confused, horny, tired of limbo, ALL of that.

And it's all perfectly understandable.

So, ARE you okay with the way it's going -- INCLUDING the pace -- or AREN'T you?

Puppy

Don't know Pup. Most days, with the progress we're making, I'm ok. Some days, I'm not.

So, what I need to come to grips with is this. W seems to be responding to no pressure. But without pressure I'm afraid we'll continue this dance possibly to a point where I don't care. So what to do?

Right now, I'm kind of stuck. Financially I can't really do anything until a relocation opportunity comes up. That won't be until probably spring. So does it make sense to push her right now and risk all the progress we've made? I can see W saying "see, I knew you weren't listening when I told you I needed time". And then all the changes I've been working on go out the window.

So which is it? I'm not ok with the pace, but I know the pace is the only chance our marriage has. So unless I'm ok with throwing in the towel, I have to accept that this will go at her pace not mine.

I know sometimes I ramble on, vent if you will. And I do that to get some of my frustrations out so I don't wreck all the progress we've made by taking it out on her. I also know that I can see us making lots of progress soon. So I guess I'll just continue on as is for now and make sure when I'm venting here that I state so so I don't confuse anyone with my posts.