Well Kalni - many thanks for the suggestion - actually i don't think it is acts of service - which may well explain the almost complete lack of appreciation shown when i offer them - for her I don't think what she perceives as simple acts of kindness/friendship are particularly important - although as I understand it - that all probably means that they are important to me - cos i sure attach a lot of importance to being appreciated for these things.
My gut feeling is that W's LLs are physical and quality time - which both require a lot of honesty, openness and intimacy to be delivered and appreciated in the right way - they are difficult LLs to service in our current circumstances!
Just had an absolutely fantastic day with H - headed over the Pennines to an indoor bouldering wall and ended up spending around 4 hours there... then to a park for a hockey knock-about and cafe then back home...
He and I have had a ball!
KBO - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
