Cleaning out Clutter - ? For Men

[MsMelancoly]

Hhmm, How do I start this. I will give a bit of history before my question. I would appreciate any male perspectives.

H left/ran away over a year ago. I have been friendly through it all. H has had very little interest in contacting me. In August I forced a car trade & we had 2 R talks. I basically told him that I have spent this past year working on myself & changing myself. H admitted he has spent the entire year trying to forget. We talked about D. I told him, if he didn't have the time to work on our M that we should D. His mum was also pushing for D, because of my assets & his debt. In October he filed for D (I found out by looking online & haven't received papers yet). I am fine and at peace with D. I wasn't really surprised he filed without telling me. His way, is running away from problems. I believe he is controlled by fear & a fear of getting too close to any woman. (I figured this out by taking a good look at his past).

He has taken maybe 20% of his things from my house. I sent him a nice email after finding out about D that he could take the rest of his things. I even offered to help sell some of his things on ebay. (He did respond & said sounds good. And then another vague response that he doesn't get home every night until 6pm. So a yeah or nay on ebay selling - I don't know). You see, in our 2 years together he collected many things from garden trains to 60's astonaut toys to pirate toys to misc other things. (When he moved in he brought GIjoe toys & D&D figs). All of this is still here. As well as, misc household & nic nak things. Last week I delivered some of his outside things (his garden train, tracks, a bag of gravel, train town buildings & misc other things). I did email him to warn him I would be dropping them off. (I needed the extra room in the storage shed). I knocked on his door, when I made my delivery - just to say hello - but he didn't answer.


Onto my question. In the next week (for my work), I will in the area where he lives. I was planning on dropping off more of his things (clothes, halloween decore, his stuff from our bedroom & misc other things). Maybe 2-3 car loads of his things & then - leave him alone & wait until after our D hearing in Feb. Why do I want to do this? 1. I do not want to be the b*tch that gave his things to charity. 2. If he doesn't want to deal with me - that is ok. But I want him to deal with the life, the things he left behind. Also, I don't want to seem too pushy. Is this being too pushy??

Do you, men have any thoughts on my plan? I welcome any & all thoughts & feelings about this.

Thanx, for reading my post!

PS. During our R talk, he also did say that he would help clean out the clutter he & I both collected.