trying to be patient and strong 8

[hoosiermama]

This is the 2nd time he's played dumb about health stuff re: the kids. I had several arguments with him about switching their doctor to one in my town (since I'm the one that takes them it makes sense to me). I mentioned the new doctor a month or so later and he yells at me for an hour or 2 about how I never told him about that. (I had even had a discussion with my C about our fights over that and she confirmed that or I would think I was crazy or something.

I'm guessing he is making this crap up so he can say I'm not keeping him fully informed and input on the kids' health stuff and he has to make up lies about me to do that.

Karen--

You can't let him do this! It's bad for your mental health and your self-image. If he starts yelling, give him one more chance to speak with you calmly and respectfully about your children (yes, tell him this) and if he can't do that, then tell him you're ending the conversation. Then do so. You're empowering him to be verbally and emotionally abusive, and inviting yourself to feel like a doormat. Neither will get you anything positive.

You can't reason with him when he's like this. You may decide simply to have email conversations to convey information.