Sorry to hear that interactions with H are not so good lately. But it seems that these fights and H's anger are, unfortunately, all part of the process.
It doesn't surprise me at all that your H is being directed by his L. We know that our H's certainly aren't doing any thinking on the matter on their own. And the L's are being paid to be on their side, so naturally the L will justify how H is feeling. Finally, your H has someone on his side (even if he's being paid).
I know it's difficult, but try to rise above all of this while still protecting yourself. Be as businesslike about this as you can. No emotions. Find your compassion for H, but make sure you get all that you are entitled to. That's my advice... (You may have to remind me of my own words when my time comes!)
Just curious - how is your H's R with your kids? Has his guilt affected his interactions with them? I think my H's guilt has made him an even worse father. I've been considering telling him to not let his guilt and shame prevent him from being the person he's capable of being, but I don't think the time is right yet.
Sorry to get off the subject. Stay strong and keep us updated.
