Thanks Snodderly....I feel comfortable doing just that...I can be numb without being mean.

I feel good about talking to L first before anything.

I couldn't trust a mediation with D papers on file like that. I think I'dhave to hear, first, the papers were dropped (however that works) before I can talk to him.

I feel good that it is day 5 and I haven't gotten into anything with him. I seriously think he expected me to call screaming and freaking out as I did when he told me he was moving out.

Right away, I knew that God wants me to deal with this. God has a reason for me to deal with this as much in his Glory as possible.

I feel kind of relieved that H has filed is D papers...he can't threaten it now. As long as I stand still, don't engage in anything with H, he has played his last card.

Until now, H knew I wanted him back here. H will eventually see, right?, that he has probably burned that bridge pretty bad.

Now, why again, do they say such shallow things as hoping to be friends? They can't mean that, can they?


Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home