Happy, Welocme back. Michelle (MI, Always Out Front!), and sandy, thanks for the responses
Happy: Great advice. Love the key in the stocking. They aren't easy. sandy: Great point. S10 was in my sight all weekend. The only time he was in my room was when he was OUT on the couch, and I carried him in to sleep. Good motives, but I had him in sight at all times.
I have to go with Colonel Mustard in the den with the candlestick!
FL was talking about his daughter. Not a son. His son is a youngster. His daughter took the money. She was the only one there. He's said that. He knows what happened and there's not any question about what happened.
Blatnatly taking moneyshows wanton disregard. She even took the container it was in. I just hope that the reckless maner in which she behaved is not an indication that she is ack to "using". She had to tell me that she "had to take her roommate to the hospital because she was drunk beyond belief" and that she "had not been drinking at all", as a deflection and a "Wow, I'm so glad you weren't drinking" deflection away from the money story. Yep; Elvis, the Easter Bunny and I was on the grassy knoll in Dallas in 1963.
Hope the weekend will be a good distraction for you. Let us know what you decide about dinner with D18. It's so hard to separate the person from the actions although I know that is the proper thing to do. To say "I love you D18 and I always will; I don't like your actions". Staying calm (unlike the normal reaction of your wife).
I just hope that the reckless maner in which she behaved is not an indication that she is ack to "using".
Well, stealing money from family members would be a typical drug addict behavior. What was her drug of choice? Could you make random drug tests a condition of your ongoing support of her in college?
1.5 hours from MA to NH to eat with D18 last night. Of course it rained..why wouldn't it?
When I met her, I put it out there about the money. I simply said "You stole money from me, you lost my trust, and it's frustrating". Let's go eat. What else to do? Your advice was helpful. She has been through a lot of shi* as well. Her brutally controlling mother, her addiction and all the assorted lying and anger that goes with it, and me trying to leave planet Earth when I learned of the divorce.
D18 unloaded on STBX. I just let her vent as long as it wasn't destructive. She told me that Smarmylaywerboss, who bought D16 a Jeep and re-did my basment when I was in Iraq still wears his wedding ring, even at "our house". She laughed as she said "He's physically, but not emotionally married". She related how she attacked STBX and told her "You're nothing but a mistress", at which STBX got upset. Welll? She stated "How could Mom let him buy D1 a Jeep and not me?" I know why..she was an addicted mess of a kid, but why STBX would let the Smarmster buy ANYONE a Jeep is beyond me. She had the orbs to ask me for a copy of my military ID when I was in Iraq for the $500 Jeep Veteran discount. Uh...no bit&h.
I told D18 the whole thing was pathetic. I wasn't angry or jealous, but it was just pathetic. She stated how when Smarmy came into her deli in the summer where she worked, her boss said..."THAT'S him?"
I'm fully aware D16 can just be playing me like a well-worn set of castenets!
D18 stated STBX is in "midlife crisis". On the "Emotional IQ scale" D18 is a genius. STBX once would not talk to a guy down the street who left his wife and 2 daughters to marry his current wife. Said he was "slimy"...her words. The worm has turned! BTW Ellie, I have two drug tests for the return home. Happy Holidays!
FL was talking about his daughter. Not a son. His son is a youngster. His daughter took the money. She was the only one there. He's said that. He knows what happened and there's not any question about what happened.
Happy,
I am aware he was speaking about his daughter. I also thought that he had said that his son was there too. He was there. I just asked him a few questions to make it clear to me that he had the right "kiddo" and had not jumped to conclusions. (which is sometimes easy to do when you have one that's a trouble maker and one that is not) Sometimes you can't see the forest for the trees, but now that he explained about his son, I can see how and why he came to the conclusion that he did.
FLTC.
I am glad that you met up with your daughter anyway. I hope you are well.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Got up at 430. Was going to go to the gym, but have mediation this afternoon and will probably need to go to the gym AFTER that, so that I can beat the stress monkey to death. If you stop by, read my last post about D18, STBX and Smarmylawyerboss.
