Listen to Sara. Don't go for the cheap shots like making your W look small in front of her family in order to make yourself feel some sort of satisfaction. It won't feel good in the long run.....and acts like that usually cost in the end.
Your W is an extremely selfish woman. Just go. Go and go dark also. Protect yourself. Your W is treating you like an idiot and you know you are worth so much more.
Don't decide now whether you want this M or not....it's all too raw and you are too close to things at the moment. Go do something for you. Go and find the life that exists outside of this situation.
It's time for your W to work at this M if it is to be saved. I would put money on her trying to talk you round again. So far it has all come from you.....and personally I do believe that after a certain stage it takes both parties to want to make the M happen; you can't always be the only one working on things.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
