More changes... W sent word through her lawyer that she is officially retreating from D to just legal separation.
She also sent word that she's not ready yet to talk with me as she's too scared. This is a marked improvement from the fallacious claim that talking to me was illegal for my younger son (DS18) or her. (The protection order also prevents me from contacting DS18.)
(There was bad news this week. DS18 withdrew from university. I was glad to hear that he's in therapy. Perhaps once he completes that, he can return to his studies.)
Now I believe that we're seeing a pattern of change that would seem inconsistent with the WAW. I believe that a WAW feels that she's fallen out of love. We (elder son, my lawyer, and I) continue to hear about her love for me.
"Too scared to talk to H" would also seem to be different. What could she be afraid of, especially over the phone or through email? I suspect that she's afraid to either reconciling (She might fear that I would be persuasive.) or to face the guilt of the really horrible things she's done to me since filing suit for D.
To support her if the first is true, I regularly provide the promise that I will speak (or write) about only the topic she wishes to discuss and for only as long as she wishes.
To support her if the second in true, I have several times in writing stated that she has nothing to apologize for. This situation is my fault. I've cried a lot over what she did, but I have forgiven her (though my therapist seems to keep wanting to check on that).
I value your input... Don't hesitate to comment, to critique, or ignore. Thanks.
