I have read all of the same books! I have a library of R books!! And continue to re-read important passages in all of them. I love it when Dr. Phil says "do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy" i no longer want to be a "right fighter" I want to be happy! That is one big lesson I have learned from all of this.
My big thing is learning to just "talk" talking to him like a friend. that is really hard for me. H is kind of quiet, so getting him to open up is kind of hard, and i on the other hand...well if you can't already tell, I am a motor mouth!!! LOL! He usually just sits and listens and does one or two word answers. Getting him to truly open up is one of the most difficult tasks ever. It's catching him in the right mood...and only the Lord knows when that moment in time will be!!! And knowing he probably doesn't exactly want to be with me right at first(hopefully knowing his buttons this will change), he is bound to be more quiet. That is why i thought of the idea of getting a beer or two...I thought it might relax us both a little. I am trying to remember after two years things I did to make him happy, and things I can do to show him he can trust me. any suggestions?
If I told that C once, I told her a hundred times....it ain't over til it's over. He text me and said he was willing to try...and that was good enough for me to put my heart and soul into this. I have to believe in God, and his direction now, she simply said ok! I told her because of my faith, my vows and my love for my H, i would not give up that easily. Even if the signs all looked like he wasn't interested. I don't care how big of a whack job she thinks i am!!! LOL!!!!
thanks for the words of encouragement!!! They are sooooooo appreciated!!!
((((VS))))) christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
