For the Guy with Kids and a WW Neunzehn(19)

[kat727]

Maybe it would help you to think, "I am courting my Wife".

kat

[Sugar and Spice]

Maybe it would help you to think, "I am courting my Wife".
kat

That would be a good way of approaching it. Good call kat!

[hopeful4her]

That's exactly how I've been approaching things.

Funny to think of it like that, though.

I did shoot off an email earlier today at about 11:30,

"Hi

I hope your day is going well and I hope the smokes didn't get soggy.

I wanted to ask, if you didn't have set plans yet, if ya'll wanted to go to the movies tomorrow to see the Chihuahua Movie. Of course, if not, I completely understand. I had told Amanda the other day, that if you worked on Saturday, I would ask you if we could go. Since we're both off, I figured maybe we could all go.

I also wanted to get your thoughts on Thanksgiving. Amanda mentioned that you may have suggested having it at the house. Let me know what you think, and I'll go get a turkey this weekend, if we do do that. (I said do do )

Just let me know and have a good one. If I don't see you, ya'll have great weekend.

R "


No response yet, and won't count on getting one. And like Beej, said, I won't be surprised or hurt if she says no. I more than half way EXPECT her to either not respond or say no.

And I do plan on having fun this weekend. Getting lots of invites.




Okay, so as I'm about to hit submit, she responded.

"JuliAna was the one that saw the smokes this morning, thanks, they were much needed. She was giving me such a hard time this morning, she finally decided that she was hungry as we were walking out. I told her she was going to sleep at 8 today. I was planning on making tamales Saturday, but the girls can go if you still want them too. I wanted to make some before Thanksgiving, which is already next week, I can’t believe it."



I just sent her back,

"De nada.

So what time would be best for you to get your stuff done? Morning, afternoon? I'll bring the blender with me when I show up.

What kind were you going to make? I'll pitch in the roast for some beef tamales, but you have to gimmee some. Me likee the beef ones.

Thanksgiving is in two weeks on the 27th, but it IS coming fast."

[yenko69]

I have been keeping up on you and a couple others. I have been to busy to post much. I thought today, but while having breakfast with my W D11 called and is sick. I took her for the day and I am keeping her tonight so there goes the updating and posting. Nothing serious, D11 will be fine.

Keep it up and hang in there.

[hopeful4her]

Thanks, Tom.

Same here. I used to post a lot to others, but my time is limited now and I've actually been trying not to hang on here so much, especially during the day. At night, I'm trying to do stuff. And of course, the past week has been freaky.

My little one had stomache problems the other night and upchucked all over her self and her bed.

Glad it happened on the wife's watch .

[lost_in_space]

H4H

Nice to avoid the puke patrol.

Wow - a few of us have gotten into so much cr@p in our sitches at the same time. Not that we don't want to post to others - but for me too frickin exhausted by ther time it gets to come here.

Hey - I am looking east from the balcony in PHX - see me?

[whatdidido]

Those other invites are hopefully invites from guys like the hunting guy or guy you found on fb...NOT abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxy or z.

[Sugar and Spice]

Nice to avoid the puke patrol.

Nope, I have puke patrol today...both of them. This is SOOOOO not the cruise I remember signing up for.

I sorta feel the same way as you and H4H. I post a lot less than I did originally and now I keep up with only a handful of people here. It sounds bad and I'm kind of ashamed of myself for it, especially since I get so much support, but I'm trying to find other things to fill my time with. That sounds bad too, but I think you know what I mean.

No ABC girls for you H4H....no XYZ's either!

You sitch seems to be taking a turn for the better these days. Good for you.

[karen43]

No ABC girls for you H4H....no XYZ's either!

I know that's right, but I have to admit it would be fun to have some ABC boys!!!

H4H, I truly think your W doesn't deserve you, and she should be thanking God every day to have you in her life. I don't understand how she doesn't realize that! Karen

[hopeful4her]

Invites from all them.

I had called B earlier in the day, because I ordered those DTV Free converter box coupons for her. She doesn't have cable and doesn't use rabbit ears, so not tv for her. I got them in and got a box for her and I. She invited me to dinner and a beer at Bennigans, so I went. We have a mutual friend that is having a Bday party for her son on Sunday, so considering that. Not going together. Offered to install the box, possibly on Sat.

I know, I know.

I never got a final response from the wife yesterday and just left it at that. About an hour after I got home last night, Amanda gave me a call. She is ready for bed and very tired. She is in bed talking to me, Juli is already asleep and Miguel is out at a skating rink. While we're talking, I can hear the wife in the background ask if I'm at home. Amanda asks me and I tell her that I just got home and why. She started talking about something else, so she didn't answer me. I ask about what they had for dinner and she tells me that the apartment office had a Thanksgiving dinner for the residents. They all ate there and she tells me that she wished that I was there and that she's sorry that she didn't save any for me. I play with her and get on her case about it, jokingly. She is starting to doze off, so I tell her goodnight and ask to speak to her mom.

The wife gets on the phone and sounds like she was asleep. She says she keeps dozing off, saying how sleepy she is. I ask about what time is better for her and she says it doesn't matter. I then joke with her about Thanksgiving not being next week and if she is still going to make the tamales. She says she is because she will have to work next Sat. I ask her if she has everything she needs and she says yes, she is just going to make chicken tamales. She just needs to go purchase the masa.

Thats the cornmeal mixture that holds the filling.

I ask about Miguel and she says that she is going to try to call Miguels friends dad to maybe pick him up and they could meet closer in. I tell her that I'll go pick him up so that she doesn't wake the girls up or have to leave them there alone.

"No. Your all the way at home and you just got home."
"I've been here about an hour. I'd rather go and you stay there with the girls. I'll leave right now."
"(Sigh) I'll call Miguel and let him know. Thanks."

I take off at about 10:30 to pick him up. On the way to the apartment, I ask him what he is planning tomorrow. He wants to practice his drums with a friend playing guitar for a couple hours and then he wants to spend the night at my parents house.

My parents haven't seen him in maybe a month or more. I tell him that that is a good idea and well make arrangements. The wife calls me to ask if I got him already and I say I do. She tells me to be careful and I tell her that we'll be right there.

At the apartment, I give him the blender to give to his mom and we say our goodbye's.

On the way home, my separated bud calls me to join him at a bar. He had been forwarding me funny texts all night. I tell him that I'm just heading home. Maybe tomorrow night.

Today might be interesting. After the movie, I'll suggest a barbeque.

Doing things with no expectations is pretty freeing. Although some things she does upsets me, it isn't anything close to like it used to. And I'm close to being a walk away myself. I keep finding myself to B more. No flirting, just talking about our days and whatnot. Not that I'm moving away from the wife. It's just really hard to explain. Like I'm in the position of control with both. Nothing romantic with either of them. Just spending some time with both. Recently, moreso with the wife.

I would hate to think that I'm just pouncing on breadcrumbs that the wife is throwing my way. I'm protecting myself.

Of course, the wife has the ball in her court, but it may get to the point that I just want to stop playing, pick up my ball and go home.

Ultimately, the decision lies with me and I plan on continuing with the wife. Courting her. Knowing she has two and I'm at the disadvantage.

But I'll continue.