Karen I hope you are keeping the emails between you and H. These can clearly show that he is/was being kept informed. I believe you posted about his being mad about the Dr. thing too.
It sounds like your H is unwilling to this amicably at this point, so let your L handle it and keep away from him as much as possible.
So sorry it has to be like this.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option