Julia-I really appreciate the suggestion about responding to H with a witty remark. I think I will try that the next time that this kind of thing happens. I definitely haven't been acting hurt, but I think I could take this up a notch...I realize that I need to ensure that I remain strong even if "deferring" to H in many areas.
Ali-thanks for checking on my evening! Actually, it's the best that we've had yet. This will sound silly perhaps, but for the last 2.5 hours or so we were sitting together looking at watches on his computer. Watches are a huge passion of his, and we looked at a bunch of different sites and talked about which ones we could afford, which I liked, which he liked etc. During this time he was IMing with some of his family, and he was completely transparent with their messages to him, and his messages to them, and in one message said I was sitting with him, and called me by one of our sweetest nicknames in this IM. It's a character from a Mexican soap opera so it may not translate well, but I was SO touched.
Opt--yes H definitely is still dealing with his own emotions. He may very well have an OW fantasy, and if so, I can't really know. I do know that he is now acting more as though he is in love with me when I am here. He acted really happy to see me when I came home, and followed me upstairs chatting the whole time.
All--I am entirely certain that something has shifted. Tonight when when we were sitting together there was very vague talk about future things like living in certain places, or making certain purchases together. I even talked about some plans I had tomorrow, and he sort of tried to invite himself. It's not something tangible and easy to describe, but I am quite certain now that things have changed for the better. I am feeling really comfortable now, and I think that things are on the upward trend.
Thank you for checking on me and making sure that I think about things. I don't know where I would be without these boards...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
