New Me - Will WAW ever notice?

[Kakatal]

Amazing what a good meal & talk with friend will do for clearing your mind!

W lacks the internal motivation to change, stop the A or work on M - doesn't care at this point. So giving w some sort of ultimatum via tough love is not going to result in her developing motivation to change - will result in pushing her away - probably for good. Need to reconnect with her and the only way to do that is to keep doing what I have been with DB. Only reason OM is around is because of the emotional connect w has made with him - the one that our m lacked.

I am going to just do what has been working up to this point. I have to stop with getting my hopes up when things appear to be headed in the right direction. I have to control my emotions when they start in the wrong direction. I have to drop all expectations about things working out - convincing myself that D is going to happen appears to have removed most of my heartache. Just need to keep that frame of mind all the time & let things just work themselves out - cannot control the future, just myself in the present.