We only all have our own experiences to judge by- and while I think that the majority do have some sort of OW type relationship (or fantasy?) on the side- it doesn't mean they all do.
I do think your H struggles with his own emotions (based on what you relate). But he is building in his comfort level over the past few weeks of your messages. I guess it would be soo helpful if there was a separate board for the spouses to journal so we could compare notes.
But you are still in the house- and he hasn't flipped out and forced you out- and I do think that he has ML 2 times is something. It is a connection that the two of you share.
I like the idea of turning his negative remarks around with a smart ass reply. I wonder if your H may enjoy that too based on your descriptions of him.
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
