Another wife hit by the bomb #3

[lovehimso]

Hi Tawnya,

Just catching up with your sitch. Sorry that the anniversary didn't go as well as you would have liked. I understand how hard it is to not get pulled into relationship talk. My H seems to want to spend time with me, and a lot of times initiates R talk, but he is always quick to end it, too. It's hard for me to come up with something else to talk about, though, so when he starts in it is so tempting to go along with it. Our R convos have been somewhat better lately, in that I have learned how to validate more often and not always use what he says as a springboard for MY issues. At least he went with you to the movie, even after you told him what it was about. That's a positive! Even if his reaction wasn't what you were hoping for, sometimes it's a better sign that they actually have A reaction, and not NONE, if you get my drift. Some people, and I don't know if your H is this way, actually get agitated and "lash out" a little when something hits them where it hurts. My H is like that, for sure. When he knows he's wrong, he tries to turn it around.

Anyway, hope you find something fun to do this weekend! I still don't have any plans, except hang out with my two kids. H will probably be around, which makes me happy and anxious all at the same time.