I have no evidence of an OW.

I have been through that with him 4 years ago....I do not see any of those signs now.

But...that doesn't mean my intuition is complete under this kind of stress.

I understand two reasons for suddenly filing.

1) an OW wants him and he wants the freedom to pursue that.

2) H wants money to continue his carefree single life as a buddy-dad.

I wouldn't even consider any form of mediation if there is an OW.

There definately isn't any OW that H has fallen in love with.

I wouldn't be able to live with any man ever again if there was an OW!!!!!

EVER...EVER....EVER!!!

If he is even dating, he can be charged with adultry... he spends so much time over here.

It has also been suggested that I hire a PI if I start to get definate signs of an OW.

You know....I WAS trying to mediate with him Sunday night...H rejected everything I could come up with as well as anything he came up with.

You're right...NO Reasoning ability right now.

You know...H acts like a wild animal in a trap....and they chew their own limbs off to 'get away'...

Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home