Ali- thanks for taking the time to write such a long post and for thinking about things. To answer your questions,
1. no, I don't want to see a C- it won't help me but thankyou for suggesting it and trying to think of a way to help 2. H having to go shopping with his Mum is just a thing- as Julia says, it's easier to not have to confront her than do anything else. I think H would only confront her if a serious issue came up. If he really wants to deal with it, he will. I'm not his mother and I'm not going to make suggestions/give solutions unless he specifically asks for them. 3. Never criticising H. I don't have him on a pedestal. Clearly the MLC causes issues with H's behaviour, but we all know what they are. I don't need to criticise him for the issues to be plain. 4. Yes, I'm fine with the aubergine trying to stop him from seeing me, because he IS still seeing me and thinking about me so what she's saying isn't having an effect, except in showing her for who she is. 5. I didn't think it was a bad thing for him to say he thought I seemed happier. In Mars/Venus it says that men respond to problems and try to help you with them by minimising them. That's what H is doing, and to be honest it's the best solution for me. If he'd tried to suggest I was feeling up and down (which I don't in general- I'm on an even keel) I'd have thought he'd gone mad!
Julia- I agree that it was nice that we were still comfortable after such a long break, and that H was thoughtful. He knew I'd made the invite, he just didn't accept which is fine as it wasn't an invite for a specific day- it was just saying he could join a group of us if we were going. It was great that he was speaking freely and about himself- he's not a big talker so I'm always happy when he tells me what's going on with him and in his life. I guess we'll see what happens when he gets back (he's up North for the shopping).
