Two male friends that know the situation and the fact that a D is not going to solve H's financial problem. They know that H spends a lot of time here, we all get along, we go out to dinner as a family, etc, etc.....
They both said, that H should 'man up', be a father,and make an intelligent choice. It would be a compromise on H and my part.
Which is what I was trying to 'mediate' or suggest the night I told H I didn't have any more money to contribute. Then remember, H got mad and filed the next day.
Now that H has had me served those ugly papers, there'd have to be a huge 180 in my H for me to suggest that.
Although...I too, am very concerned about the lack of finances and I know that the finances are very comfortable for this household. I don't want to lose my stability and house by being obstinant.
No matter what, I'm not going to suggest it without provocation....I would have thought that if H was honest with his lawyer, the lawyer would have said, 'Mr H...you can't afford a D.'
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
