He asked me what I did after I got home from work, and I told him I worked out, got online etc., and he said that it was a really boring conversation. He was joking around I think, but every once inawhile he just throws in these negative things that seem to come from nowhere. They are nowhere near as bad as the things he'd been saying before, and I laugh them off, but I feel like maybe he is still seeing if I will react in certain ways.
One thing that struck me here is maybe you could turn these kinds of things into a bit of a joke. I am thinking of two examples one somewhere that MWD talks about an argument with her husband and she uses humour to turn it around (it is something about a golf club newsletter and she is moaning about how they put womens names in brackets and her h doesn't see what the problem is and she apologises by signing her name on a post it note (Michelle) ) and also of something in the 'B!tch' book about a guy moaning about what she is wearing and she answers 'listen here Versace'. Could you start standing up for yourself a little in these ways by being witty? It may diffuse situations that he is trying to create to reinforce his negative views and also means you are setting subtle boundaries in terms of respect and the fact you have a life without him. All attractive traits to a man.
Sorry that is a bit long winded... hope you get what I mean.
