We joined my parents in seeing a play and dinner before the play.
We saw Rosencrantz and Gildenstern are Dead. It was pretty intense. My parents and I discussed it the next day, and the message we walked away with is this: Who is your audience? Your in-laws? Your spouse? Yourself? Others in your life?
Gave me lots to think about. I need to go read the play, cause some of it was over my head, and I'd like to read it to see what I missed.
In any case, my husband comported himself well with my parents.
And I noticed a neat thing: If we stopped touching for more than 2 minutes, he reached for my hand. Now, normally, I'm the touchy one. It was nice.
Lots of good signs.
He is begining to seriously consider moving in with me now and commuting to his current job. It's an hour and a half commute. He hates commuting, so the fact that he's considering this, is another big baby step!
His boss has told all the managers in his store that begining soon, they will all be working 9 am to 9 pm 6 days a week. He's even more motivated to get a job in my town now. He's already working long hours and I can hear in his voice that he's exhausted. He's had no time to play. Poor thing.
His mom had continued to pressure him to get a job and move to her town, despite him saying he's committed to moving to my town and living with me again. I don't want to get into a tug of war, with my husband in the middle. We will all lose. Well, now she's been fired from her job and might be getting a job in his town or getting a job out in Colorado. Either way, she can no longer guarantee him a job where she's working. Which I feel guilty for feeling relieved about.
But, I'm keeping in mind, that my husband is my audience. It doesn't matter what she says/does, I must continue to play my role with dignity and grace. I remember what it was like when I lost my job back in April...very scary. And I was only jobless for a week. She has a house and kids to take care of. Plus, I have a new understanding of her. Her husband traded her in for a younger model. After she had 5 of his children. She's still bitter and they had a horrible nasty divorce. I know how tough this past year has been for me. How much more horrible was it for her? I can only imagine.
I'm DBing her. I must stay focused on the babysteps. She IS emailing me.
