Hey all....I started a thread in Newcomers and was told to find smartcookie, breakaway and whatdidido for advice and I see a couple here...so here was my post in Newcomers.
Not sure what thread to post to, yet. Have not read the book yet since I'm on the side of thinking that I should walk away.
I'M the one not in love anymore, I'M the one who wants it over.
We've been married 14 years. No affairs for either one of us. He was pretty much an absent (at least emotionally) father for the first 10 years. About 2 years ago, he decided to basically start smothering me to try to make our marriage better. The 10 absent years, I learned to function on my own and became very independent. Since the smothering began, we have fought non-stop. He has accused me of having an affair because he can't understand that my feelings for him have gone away. In his eyes that means they must be on someone else. Not true. In all of our fighting, I have come to the conclusion that true love is extremely rare. Marriage is entered into too lightly. I want no part of it, it has shoved me halfway out the door.
Last year we went to marriage counseling for about 4 months and he quit because he felt he was being attacked. (basically because our therapist agreed with me alot)
We have become two different people. I am on a major quest to self-improvement (physically and spiritually). He has become a thorn in my side. I dread when he's around. I am so uncomfortable when he's home. Our kids have been exposed to way too much drama. There is so much to my story, I at least need help in finding the correct thread or person to talk to.
