Don't know what to expect today. H never said what time he is coming. I have to work at noon, so we will see. S20 is home, so if h is not there by noon I am just going to go to work and leave d4 with s20.
It seems like we usually have more convos' during the week. I know h has been busy. He just took on more responsibilities. I have always thought that my h immerses himself in more work to not focus on the day to day.
Trying to live my life while h pulls himself together.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Hey GG, my h loads up on work too. I think it is so he doesnt have to face his issues. Keep moving and and working and then there's no time to think, ya know?
All we could do is keep living our lives. I am slowly realizing that I have no control over him or what he does, only have control over me and my life.
thinking of you and hope your h comes over before you have to go to work.
my h does the opposite--does not immerse in anything except to be alone for hours upon hours.
i used to be a workaholic while living in new york city as i had nothing else to really do but it did take my mind off of things at the same time.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Well h did not make it before I went to work. Needless to say I was furious, called him a few times no answer, text him no reply.
I just thought it was best that I leave a nice message h I left D4 with s20 and I had to go to work. Hope you make it soon.
Then I went to work and immersed myself in meeting after meeting. H had text me right before h arrived and said he was on his way.
All I can say is thank God I went to work and didn't have to think about how he wasn't there again. I have gone over this with the c and h over and over and h said taken care of and now we are back to this.
I finally spoke to h 4 hours after he arrived which much to my suprise the anger inside me had subsided. H said when are you coming home I ordered dinner for the kids. My interaction went well.
I came home for a late late dinner and then ended up staying an hour later at work too. I was just given a high level project that I need to be on my game with. So far it's going well. I just told h there are times with my job that I have to put more time in it. Lately I have been swamped and have been working through my lunches as well. I have a good job, so not an issue for me.
No wonder I feel so drained. Today h will be here around 3ish and we have a sitter at 6. Then we are going to dinner and early holiday shopping. H said he was giving me $400 today for gifts. I am so grateful for his generosity.
Well in retrospect I did do good. I was actually amazed at how a few hours for me passed and I had a new perspective. Note to self!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
It was meant to be that you were unable to talk to him when you could not get a hold of him.
It gave you a chance to cool off. Believe me, I understand.
I hope you have a nice day and that your shopping and dinner goes well.
They really are terrible when it comes to what time it is and what time to be somewhere even if they are reminded.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi glam- It is a good thing that you were forced to cool off before you spoke to your H. And it is an even better thing that you recognize that you should do the same thing when you are frustrated and angry in the future. Just take a step back and give it a little time. Use this as an opportunity to show him that you have changed and that you won't react.
I was upset with my H this morning. I asked him if we could could make it a goal to communicate in some way everyday and he didn't feel comfortable agreeing to it. I didn't react when he said that but I was not happy. I later did a couple of miles on the treadmill and felt soooo much better. I just hope it lasts.
