MC...can you do me a favor...cause I don't have time to read up. There's a woman on Newcomers named Sophie. I know you posted there once. She got her D papers yesterday. Can you check in on her for me if you get a minute today?
Happy Friday to you!!!
Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
hey tom, please dont fall asleep when driving, that would make us ladies very sad!! we need ya you know lol? hugs to you and prayers for your safety
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
ok well whew but dont scare me like that again lol!!! bad tom bad tom!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
After a slow week in my sitch; I guess that's good, I went to SIL house for our nephew's 1st BD party. Only attendees were me and the kids; W's father and step-mother; BIL's father; and BIL's cousin. W and her mother couldn't make it. Party was fine. My D loves her little nephew; though my D was a little sickly, in and out of fever on Sat. Our nephew loves following my S around and playing with my S's toys. As my FIL and his W left; they gave me the usual SIL hugs and let me know that I could call them anytime if I needed anything. It's nice to know that they know what I'm dealing with.
Talking with my W's sis; she was telling me that the W has no guilty conscience; that the W is doing (in the W's words) taking a risk. That we are technically divorced; and the only reason why we aren't legally divorced is that we can't afford it right now.
Going back to the W's visit with her G.father last week; I would have to assume that she was looking for money to file for D. I say this because her G.father told my SIL that W had told him that I already had a GF and she put a name out there to him. His response was "So!" So looks like she was trying to make me out to be the bad one here; just like the script. BTW, I do not have a GF; and the name; while she is a friend, she's definitely no GF.
SIL asked me how long I was willing to wait for the W. I told her that right now it's a matter of getting things ready. That I'm tired of waiting for the W. She said Good, that I really needed to recover and get someone in my life who could love me back the way I would love them. She's a wonderful person and loving Christian woman.
SIL also told me that she talked with the W last week, briefly about the sitch and concerning her behavior with the kids. The W ended the conversation shortly after her sis started in on how she's treating the kids. SIL told her that she wasn't concerned about our M problems; but how she was going about leaving was distressing on the kids. SIL told the W that she was going to regret this one day; and the she needed to be spending quality time with the kids. W replied that she's spending as much time with them now as she always has. (very little...so that's not a lie)
SIL asked me how much time the W has spent with them this week. I told her about 1 hour on Sunday. A hour or two on Thur. and Fri. as she took D to daycare. I also told her that she never calls to see how they are nor does she call to even talk to them.
So I'm still pressing forward with the things that I have to do and that looks like an eventual D filing.
{{{{{{Tom}}}}}}}} My friend..sounds like you had a really good week..I love how you stood strong and kept your daughter on the schedule and glad your W came thru for the kids, even if it was just gifts and some time with them
God bless you too my friend and hope you are having a good night
Psst..oh yeah..glad to hear you didn't do the princess dress up for the teacher..that would have made another conference pretty manditory probably LOL
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
So the W came in today about 7pm NOT dressed like she had been at work. She had seen all the NFL games today; so I know that she didn't go to work. So there's another lie about her work schedule. It amazes me that she still feels the need to lie to me about what she is doing. Guess, she can't see from my body language that I really don't care what she does.
Anyway, she was helpful tonight. She gave the D a bath and put her to bed after reading her a story. She also read our S a story after he took a shower. She left to stay GF's house tonight; says that she'll be here in the morning to help take our D to preschool.
It looks possible that we have an understanding on custody. I overheard her tell our S that he will stay here (my house) every night before school; but on nights where there is not school, he can stay with her. She told me that she still plans on staying with her g.father on her mom's side so that she can get paid for taking care of her invalid g.mother. I can live with that; I was concerned that she was going to be staying with GF. I was even more concerned that she was going to be moving in another man. But hopefully what she says is true.
What is sad is that when she came in the house; my boy exclaimed "man mommy, I lost track of how many days it's been since I've seen you." She didn't have much of a response. Later he told that he knows many kids where their mommy and daddy don't live together. It's really sad that he didn't seem that worked up over it; but I did hear him ask his mother if I was still going to live here. That was when she told him that he would stay here on school nights.
If all this holds true; I can live with it. This is most important part of any settlement; money.....
heck, I can make more money. Not that important. I won't give away the bank; but it's less important than the children.
But what I did find amusing tonight is that she has had her cell service cut off twice now since she's gotten her new cell phone. She hasn't even paid her first bill yet and she's getting dodgy on the bill. I heard her telling the service rep some lie about waiting on checks and a debit card. Heck, she already has a Visa card that her pay gets deposited on. I had to leave the room. She turned so angry within 30 secs on that poor rep. Somehow she sweet talked someone else to turn it back on for her.
