Oh,

Another thing I wanted to tell y'all about.

At one point before we were intimate, (should that be B.S.? Before Sex?) I said to husband, "Can you promise me to never do this to me again?"

He said with enthusiasm, "YES."

Then he said, "Do what?"

I laughed and said, "You can't promise not to do something and then ask what you just promised!"

I said, "Promise to never leave me again."

He laughed and said, "That's what I thought, yes, I promise that! As long as you make me happy."

(Red light flashed!)

I said, "Honey, I can't promise that. I can't make you happy...you have to make you happy. I can make us happy-er."

He seemed to get it. I'm a little concerned that he's still thinking that it's my job to make him happy. But I think if I can learn that it's my job to make me happy...and to learn HOW to make myself happy, he can learn too.

Gee...I think I'm really begining to understand the principles behind DBing.

Hugs all.

PIB