It seems to be working! Sometimes....

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Sandy--

I think there may still be some lingering depression for H that needs to be dealt with. Is he or has he seen an IC?

As far as self-satisfaction. I do believe this common interest with your son WILL help him, help both of them, alot! I am also glad that your children do not know why H left. In my case, my DH s going to have to rebuild a lot of trust with D17. She is suffering with some major abandonment issues over all of this.

I agree, you need to DB and detach, without the withdrawal that typically comes with it. You are becoming too tied into helping him find happiness in himself and in exchange, it is causing you stress and anxiety. Let it go. God has it under control.

I am so glad that you found comfort in my prayer for you. Know that you are in mine always. thank you for your support on the situation with my daughters. We will have the results on D9 in a couple of weeks and I am concerned for the fallout for that, but the Lord will ensure that I have the strength to stand firm in the face of whatever comes of it.

"Commit your way in the Lord. Trust in Him and He will do this." Psalm 37:5

SMW