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How are you doing? I hope things are going well with you and your H. I will check out your thread.

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Your h seems to back off a bit after every time you confront him about your r.
I agree that there is some of that going on...but I am not sure if it is always me confronting him first or if it is him backing off first.

My H sent me a text the other night at the time of the team party saying he was meeting with friends. I eventualy texted him back saying "I thought you were coming over?" He replied saying he was tied up. After the team party, we talked (I initiated the contact) and I very nicely told him that I would have appreciated it if he had called me before the party started and then we could have discussed options of doing something later in the week. He said he agreed. I thought I handled it well because I am trying to open up communication with my H.

During our conversation, my H asked if I wanted to do something the next night. I told him I was going to dinner with my S and father. My H said he might come by or as he said "crash our party". My H never showed which I was fine with but I called him on the way home since since he needed to get his payroll for the next day. He didn't answer. He calls me at 6:30 this morning and says he is coming over to my house. He apparently was out partying last night...said he wasn't sure what time he got in and that he has a bit of a hangover today...grrr!

I need to try something different because what I've been doing may be working but only at a snail's pace. I know my H is extremely busy and getting busier in the next few months and that I have to be patient...but then I think that my H and I have been consistantly going to MC for 7 months and I right now I am not feeling like we are making progress. As my H was leaving this morning, I asked him if we could make a goal to try to communicate in some way everyday. He implied he would have a difficult time with being obligated to do that but he couldn't really think about it because he is a little brain dead from drinking last night....double GRRRR!!! I dropped it and we agreed we would go to see a movie together tonight but now I am wondering if anything is ever really going to change. I wonder why he can't take his walls down a little and give a little more.

I suppose I am not nearly as patient and understanding as many on this board. I really have been trying and I am okay when there is positive movement even if is excruiatingly slow. My H appears to have stalled in this process at the moment...maybe it is my partially my fault...I don't know. And it frustrates me to think of all of the time and money I am spending on C when my H isn't really working on things the way he should. And to top it off, my kids told me the other night that I should move on. They said I am too good for my H (their step-father) and that I deserve better.