[/quote]Thought about telling w that the way I have been treating her over past 2 weeks is how I plan on treating my w for the rest of her life. But that you have made a choice to leave the m so I cannot continue to be that way towards you - token gifts showing my appreciation, buying lunch/dinner, telling her how much I appreciate her, etc. Just realize doing so would be sort of punishment for her not dropping OM & wanting to come back - really serves no purpose. [/quote]
This is something you may want to think about. It's OK to tell her the R will change once D happens, just take the emtions out of it. To be that's honest and not a threat. Before you do this, put yourself in her shoes and figure out how to approach her. Just my $.02
