I can see where you might think telling your H about your feelings (about him working, a potential lie) might SOUND anti-DB, but what we all find here in piecing is that things that might NOT have worked earlier on...might have pushed them further away....are OK, in fact even NECESSARY to really put our M's back together.
In fact, things really only started to get better for us when I DID start telling CJ more of "the truth" about what I was going thru. Mind you, he DID ask me to do just that.
So I ditto the poster above who said DB is about what works...and your H could NOT have handled that better...it gave YOU a chance to see how deeply HE feels about doing it right this time!!!
