I think the anger will subside eventually, but I understand how dismayed you are right now after confirming your suspicions.
Now the cat's out of the bag, so what are you going to do with yourself is the question. I say it's time for the deconstruction of makingchanges. Let go of the hate and anger, and replenish with happiness. No fair that your W is out there having a blast while you're stuck at home seething.
Although I really can't offer advice on how to deal with your W, I can offer a few things here and there about my approach to GAL'ing. I laid out my GAL master plan and some perspective on Bettou's thread:
