lissy)))))))))))))))))) I was thinking of your babies as I pondered my stich, I now know how hard it is to be in that sitch hon, honestly, I didnt' really have a clue. It was zumba day, lifts my spirits every time, and it came to me "why am I brooding yet again when this donkey is not spending one second thinking of me and is having a good time?" no, my time is more valuable than that. I have my kids more days than he does thank heavens. Yes, detachment is in order here.

C2H, thanks for those words, as I thought of my kids and the example stbx gives them I thought of that verse that says to watch out what you do to these little ones as their angels are ones who can look at the face of God. He isn't a well man and the less I think/deal with his issues the best, from now it will all business (children business) and nothing else, even if/after this new distracting/exciting R dies out, I dont' care if it does/doesnt. His ADHD brain is on overload now with the novelty and the newness, so it's useless to expect him to think of others, I wont' have any more of those talks again, I know now where he stands and I will just take care of my kids.
I bought s10 a tracphone so I dont' even have to talk to him to talk to kids, I'm tired of the many times I call and call and he doesnt' pick up and when he does he's all disgusted when he answers, as if I'm calling to bother him or something.

S10 keeps saying "the people dad dates!" in amazement. I have lots to learn about what not say, I wish he wouldnt' tell me where they go and what they do, but I also dont' want him to feel like he can't talk to me. D5 isn't too keen, hasnt' complained, but when we mentioned Thanksgiving she said "i'm NOT drawing a pict of a turkey for them!", I reminded her that her grandma and aunt will be there and *then* she said "oh! ok, then I'll draw a pict for grandma and aunt Xxx.
That's going to be another akward sitch, both of them are disgusted with stbx and before they knew of gf they agreed to eat at his home. It's their choice and I'll just have to understand if they agree to go while she is there, that's pretty much all the family, MIL, sil (married with no kids) and stbx, no other extended family.

I'm so blessed with so many friends and huge family, and to top it all my online buddies \:\)

Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2

30something
2kids
survivor of S, MLC, A, D
I have peace in my heart, at last.