No news in CEO world- he's become anti-flirtatious, if there is such a thing.... almost to the point at which I'd say he was ignoring me (except about work things). It's very odd considering how fliratious he was a few weeks ago. I don't think I've caused him to back off, but just in case I'm going to back away completely. He may well have met someone outside work- always a possibility. We'll see- if he has met someone he won't be able to keep it a secret for too long!
I didn't DB him at all. I asked why he didn't contact me over the past few weeks and said that I'd needed him. I said that it was nice to see him and that he could take me for lunch on Friday if he wanted to. He gave me a long hug when we said goodbye and we stood in the station for a while holding hands and looking at each other. I told him not to forget about me, and he said he never forgets about me. There were a few times when I thought he might say something to me, but he didn't.
Dod he have any answers to these q's or did he do the typical WAS thing of 'I don't know' or not being able to answer. I'm just intrigued to know whether being frank worked with him.
Hope you are ok, I got told off by my mum for being late on Sunday night - I was 13 again have you seen the funny picture of piano man on the choir website?
Hope you are ok, sorry to hear CEO has layed off flirting for while. Have you read the book about marrying a b*tch book? I can't remember the title...??
That's so funny about your Mum and I'm sorry for yakking away and distracting you from finding her! I haven't seen the picture of piano man, but I'll have a look. I hope you're not swooning over it
When I asked H why he hadn't contacted me he didn't say anything (I guess he was feeling guilty or has been thinking). When I said I'd needed him, he said that he was always there for me and said I should have called him (I said I wasn't some stalker). Today he sent me an e-mail saying the same thing again and that he was sure I'd be OK. Good male behaviour that- minimising the problem. There was something different about him last night but it's hard to put my finger on what it was. I don't think it was related to anything I did though. He seemed vulnerable is the closest I can come to describing it. Although he was OK today- we exchanged a few brief e-mails about football. I'm pretty sure telling him I needed him and that I'm reaching my limit wasn't an effective DB strategy. I wouldn't recommend it in general But I would say that H knows everything that's going on and he's really the only person I can discuss it with. He knows that, MLC or not. All very cryptic isn't it? Sorry.
I love that book- Why men marry B*tches. I think I'm following the rules- not pursuing, not rewarding bad behaviour etc. I'm trying not to dwell on CEO not flirting too much. It's easier not to try and work out what's in their heads (H's or CEO's). Actually CEO goes through periods of flirting and then not flirting at all; February- lots of flirting. Then nothing until May/June when he was back on it again. Off again until late August. On until a couple of weeks ago. If past behaviour is a guide he'll flirt again at Christmas!
Maybe the fact you verbally told him you need him shook him off his nice comfy arm chair he has been sitting his b@t the last year or more, and suddenly it...hit him!!!! : Lisa is human after all and she needs ...ME? And I failed to be there? What an a$$ am I?
You never know what crossed his mind (a bullet if I were close and owned a gun) but I suppose you "needing" him is rare. Maybe the not DBing him wasnt bad after all...
So, not having all the details... might it be a good chance to make him feel like a man and make him feel useful? /give him the opportunity to man up. Just a suggestion, feel free to let me know if I am off the mark. If he is a little vulnerable, be the one to make him feel good again.
Christmas flirting... excellent. Watch out for those office parties
You know, if it "worked" then it's DB'ing, right?? If he seems vulnerable that is awesome. A change in tone is really important... I would keep your eye out for that. and things are back to "normal" now if you are emailing?? What did you mean by "H knows everything that's going on and he's really the only person I can discuss it with"???
I hope you guys are having a good day. T- there's some other stuff going on with me that I'm not posting on the board. H is the only one who I can really talk to about it (although I do discuss it with my BFF she gets so angry when I do it's not very helpful).
I had lunch with H today. he e-mailed me first thing this morning to arrange the time and place- just the usual place where we used to go over the summer. That was nice, as sometimes over the summer he'd wait until 30 minutes before lunchtime to contact me.
We met, anyway, and hugged hello with a kiss on the cheek. We walked around and found a pub for lunch. it was good-natured and friendly. The conversation was easy and we laughed quite a bit. H mainly told me about his flatmates and how he has to go shopping with his Mum for Xmas presents this weekend. He wasn't looking forward to it- it's usually a 10 hour marathon and he hates shopping. He also has to drive 250 miles to get there. Actually 4 years ago she made him go shopping with her even though he had a temperature of 104 and felt like he was going to die. We talked about that a little and how it was hard to understand why she'd be like that. H had seen a job he thought I should apply for too. That was nice of him.
At one point I mentioned that I might arrange a trip to the cinema next week. He was non-committal so I changed the subject. I assume he's still with the aubergine and she's put a freeze on him seeing me, which is fine. Having said that, we also talked about how BIL split up with his long-term girlfriend and H said he was keeping busy, which is what you need to do. I guess I could have asked about how it was going with the aubergine at that point, but DB is obviously ingrained into me so I didn't.
After eating we sat and talked for a bit longer, mainly about the sociability of his flatmates and work colleagues, which seems to be a big issue for him. He looked so gorgeous and was very sweet- looking up through Prince William eyes in the way he used to when I first met him. He was a bit twitchy and kept fiddling with his hair. After lunch we walked back to the tube still talking and H gave me a hug as we said goodbye. I smiled at him and then he gave me a kiss on the cheek/corner of my mouth.
And that was it. No big revelations, but it seems like normal service has resumed. We'll see if he contacts me next week, I guess. I might text him tomorrow to ask how the shopping's going but haven't decided yet.
Regarding the text tomorrow, I would say do it. He told you what he was doing and you share common history in his shopping experiences. A friendly text to him wouldn't be out of line.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
have you seen the funny picture of piano man on the choir website?
