Thanks for your post. Yeah in terms of pushing the envelope, I thought it was worth a try, but I think I have to let him take the lead 100% on everything relationship-wise at this point. He really does seem skittish and I need to remember that even though things are better now than they have been in awhile, it has been a very short period of time still, and in fact us being in the same house still is already pushing the envelope. I need to continue to focus on my own 180s of not bickering, not bossing him around, and not trying to control how he spends his time.
You are right that I need to quit analyzing stuff so much. I think this is what also makes my sitch sound worse than it is, the way I feel relieved each time an interaction goes well. It's because I'm so scared of it not going well.
In terms of the pet names, I'm happy that we are using any these days, and each one used is like a baby step for me. We're not at the point where he'd be calling me princess or anything like that, so I'm happy with something else showing affection, something that I can use too without coming on too strong. If we can get to where I hope we both want to be with each other, I am sure that the nicer nicknames will become more prevalent...
Anyway thanks for checking in on me Sep!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
