For me, when I drop the rope, my instincts scream that I'm hurting my husband. When I stop trying to improve our relationship, I feel as though I'm saying to him, I give up, I quit, you aren't worth fighting for.
He on the other hand hears, "I love you, I trust you and I think we are doing great."
Sigh.
But I do find that I feel better and more in control after dropping the rope.
